When it comes to Amy Schumer, one thing’s a given: she never holds back. Whether she’s speaking out about body shamers with celeb pal Lena Dunham or penning a candid response to Glamour for calling her “plus-size,” (okay, and speaking candidly about her lady parts on her show Inside Amy Schumer), we can all expect to hear the star vocalize things we only keep inside of our heads.
But before the release of her first book, The Girl With the Lower Back Tattoo (which came out yesterday), we never knew just how the vocal comedian became so confident in herself. When we attended her talk yesterday at the Barnes & Noble in New York City’s Union Square, Schumer (who was interviewed by Abbi Jacobson of Broad City) discussed how she likes to remain positive, no matter what.
“I always try to look at the good in the situation and remind myself that no matter what happens, I try to remind myself that everything is going to be okay,” she said at the event.
And though Schumer makes clear in the book that she’s not trying to give anyone advice, Jacobson said she thinks that there is actually a lot to get out of it. Schumer responded: “I get very vulnerable and honest when I’m sharing these-not-so-great parts of my life. My positive attitude is what makes the overall message inspirational.”
The star also discussed how important it is to be vulnerable—it’s part of being a human, and she wants to spread that message of positivity, but not lie to her fans about where she’s come from and what she’s experienced. Inspirational, to say the least.
Read on to learn five super-wise ways Schumer stays positive no matter what happens.
1. She’s a huge believer in meditation
We knew the star practiced meditation, but not to this extent. In her book, she admits that when she’s shooting, she rushes to her trailer or some place quiet to meditate, rather than join her colleagues for a bite. “I need to completely shut off. This time spent silently is like food to me,” she writes. And now we know what her practice looks like: “I meditate twice a day for 20 minutes each time. It helps clear my mind and get rid of stress, and it gives me energy.” Inspo to step up our zen game, anyone?
2. Though she may not appear like one, she’s an introvert
Schumer dedicates a whole chapter to her need to have alone time. Yet she also notes that as a performer—especially a female one—you’re expected to be “on” all the time. “I think all little girls are trained this way, even those who aren’t entertainers like I was. Women are always expected to be the gracious hostess, quick with an anecdote and a sprinkling of laughter at others’ stories,” she writes.
But she admits that even during social functions, she needs a few minutes to retreat away from the crowd—whether to the bathroom or on a walk—to be alone. “So if you’re an introvert like me, especially a female introvert, or a person who is expected to give away your energy to everyone else on the reg, I want to encourage you to find time to be alone. Don’t be afraid to excuse yourself. Recharge for as long as you need.” Word, Amy.
3. She gets joy out of generosity
Though the star admits she grew up in a family with plenty of money, at one point the tables turned and her family went through a rough time. She never felt poor though, since she had just enough money to go on field trips and eat lunch at school. “I drove a shitty car, but at least I had a car,” writes the star.
It was after college when Schumer realized she had to work a little harder than the average person just to get by. Fun fact: “I got a job teaching group exercise classes at my college and those classes were my main source of legal income,” she writes. What we would give to have taken one of those classes…
So when she began hustling as a comedian—often opting to pay to perform rather than buying dinner—it eventually paid off (clearly). And now she truly enjoys taking care of her friends, her staff, and anyone that she encounters in the service industry, really. “I don’t believe that money changes your level of happiness,” she writes. “But things do get easier, and I feel great in the moments when I can help someone.”
4. Regardless of the type of job she has, she always enjoys working
Schumer has had a lot of different jobs—everything from waitressing to painting houses. “And even when I was doing something for hire that involved zero dignity, I still always liked the feeling of doing something useful,” writes the star. “Even as a kid, I just wanted to show everyone I could pull my own weight (which was never less than 150 pounds, even in middle school).”
While we all get those days where we dread going into the office or work, wherever that may be, we could take a pointer from Schumer and learn to appreciate the fact that we are doing our own thing—or, as Schumer says, “This is my court and I wear the whistle.”
5. She is all about liking herself—and not worrying about anyone else’s opinion
“You don’t need a man or a boy or a self-proclaimed love expert to tell you what you’re worth. Your power comes from who you are and what you do!” she writes. “You don’t need all that noise, that constant hum in the background telling you whether or not you’re good enough. All you need is you, your friends, and your family.” From there, the right person will show up that appreciates your true beauty, and you’ll have acceptance from the most important person (yourself). So learn to embrace yourself because you rock.
Ready to jumpstart your own meditation practice a là Amy? Here are 7 apps to get you started, or you can take some advice from Lena, who also is into the mindful practice.