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Gabrielle Bernstein: How not to beat yourself up this Valentine’s Day


Gabrielle Bernstein on self-love and spirituality
Self-love is intimately tied to forgiving yourself daily, says Bernstein. (Photo: Gabrielle Bernstein)

Valentine’s Day is a mixed grab bag of emotions.

Single, and you feel the need to prove to everyone else that you’re okay. In a relationship, and you feel the need to have the most perfect evening ever (which usually puts way too much pressure on what’s often a pretty good thing).

Enter cool spiritual guru, best-selling author, and Kundalini teacher Gabrielle Bernstein, who wants you to immediately stop, drop, and just love yourself.

“This Valentine’s Day let yourself off the hook through self-forgiveness,” she says. “Make the commitment to release your past, accept the present, and surrender the future. Throughout the day continue to say this mantra to yourself, ‘I love you and I forgive you.'”

This is all part of a larger theme of super-crucial self love, which Bernstein talks about in all three of her best-selling novels—and in the Well+Good guide to having your Healthiest Year Ever.

For more on how to forgive yourself daily—and to watch a short video with Bernstein on releasing fear that could be getting in your way, click here

And remember, if you don’t get flowers from someone special, it doesn’t mean that you aren’t. —Jamie McKillop