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Your guide to Gemini personality traits that paint the full picture of the zodiac’s twin sign

Mary Grace Garis

Mary Grace GarisMay 22, 2020

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In astrology, Gemini is often regarded as a sign that’s two-faced and duplicitous, flighty and indecisive. But that oversimplification and, honestly, unfair categorization doesn’t tell the whole story of Gemini personality traits. If you’re an all-star Gemini, you already know this, though.

To further clear the air about Gemini personality traits, I tapped astrologer and real-life Gemini twin (along with his sister Courtney) Colin Bedell, author of Zodiac Signs: Gemini, who understands Gemini’s natural duality as a positive. “We make people feel less alone because we are the twins,” Bedell says. “So we mirror other people’s experiences and understand the emotion that underpins that experience, which is what inspires people to feel less disengaged.”

Below, Bedell lays out the real deal about Gemini personality traits. So get ready, because with these astrological twins, there’s just so much to love.

Gemini personality traits: strengths and weaknesses

To start with the strengths, Geminis are exceptionally curious, and very adept at verbal communication. “They know how to say what they need to say, and they mean what they say,” says Bedell. “They may change their mind afterward, but they’re very clear communicators. I find they have a really great sense of humor, and they don’t take themselves too seriously.”

That’s why it always feels like the Geminis in your life almost back into their success. “They just kind of like find themselves in right-place, right-time situations, because they’re light on their feet and really adaptable, really elegant,” Bedell says. “And the universe responds well to that.”

“Geminis find themselves in right-place, right-time situations, because they’re light on their feet and really adaptable, really elegant.” —Colin Bedell, astrologer

The area where Gemini tends to get in trouble is, well, sometimes they speak with a lot of authority on topics that encompass a lot of ambiguity, uncertainty, and risk. In that scenario, Geminis have a tough time hitting pause to say, “You know what? I don’t have an answer for you right now. But I will tell you when I get there.” Because of this trouble with taking the time to synthesize thoughts and provide measured answers, Gemini can over-commit and under-deliver.

“They’ll change a value or a plan or an idea without also considering the fact that there are people who are a little bit more committed [and] a little bit more attached to results,” Bedell says. “And if they’re not communicating the evolution of the change, then they’re going to show a lack of integrity. That’s a really hard scarlet letter to scrub off.”

So if you ever find yourself planning a trip with a Gemini (if, sigh, we ever travel again), pro tip: Capitalize on those communication skills to confirm what the plan is before anyone throws down for a plane ticket.

How to get along with a Gemini

These lavishly verbal folks will light up if you communicate with them on their level or even close to their level (remember, these are very charismatic wordsmiths). To make sure you’re successful in this way, Bedell recommends using a method based on the research of Drs. John and Julie Gottman: Make 50 percent of the dialogue with the Gemini an open-ended question.

Giving a verbal prompt versus statements that sound like wooden PR releases will delight a Gemini. Instead of “So, what do you do for a living?” try more free-flowing lines like, “Hey, so I was curious—how did you get into that? Because I thought that you like this thing more.” And then just keep it going. Pulling your weight in a conversation will make a Gemini very, very happy, according to Bedell.

“And also, who doesn’t love somebody who has a good sense of humor and who takes things lightly?” he ask. “Energizing rich dialogue with questions, hilarity and a little bit of adventure would really make any Gemini very happy.”

What Geminis need in order to be happy

In short, lots of freedom, exploration and intellect, space to explore and ask questions. Remember, Geminis are Alice in Wonderland–level curious, which can be dangerous and isn’t always celebrated. But they can handle the curiosity. They can survive and thrive while searching for something meaningful, scratching an itch of intellectual stimulation while they’re at it, and have a great story to tell as a result.

“What Gemini needs to be happy is to use the power of communication, to wrap language around the truth and to make other people feel less alone.” —Bedell

“What Gemini needs to be happy is to use the power of communication, to wrap language around the truth and to make other people feel less alone,” says Bedell.

Who is compatible with Gemini personality traits?

Gemini has mutable, go-with-the-flow air energy that can help them get along with everyone. And plus, Bedell is of the belief that there’s no bad compatibility. In terms of personality traits, though, a Gemini is best matched with someone who can keep them mentally stimulated while being a grounding force, but not in a ball-and-chain type of way. “They appreciate the freedom of it all, the comfortable distance,” Bedells says.

So give your Gemini friend or lover some breathing room, because distance is necessary for this star sign to keep a spark. If you want to keep a Gemini engaged, you need to keep that room for uncertainty—otherwise they’re going to bounce.

Careers best for Gemini personality traits

Professionally, Geminis can best use their gifts in psychology, communication, and the relational sciences. Finding a job that plays up Geminis interpersonal skills is crucial. So Bedell says to think about writing, research, academic storytelling, media, “anything where they can put their gift of articulation and analysis to use in service to others.”

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