Just as everyone’s got their own sartorial sense (the great printed leggings vs. classic black debate rages on), when it comes to heating things up in the bedroom, you definitely have a sex style. You know: what turns you on, gets you excited, and gives you major pleasure. And, just like with workouts or stress-management, the all-knowing zodiac provides a lot of insight into what would work best for you behind closed doors.
But to really bone up (sorry, had to) on your getting-busy persona, don’t just look at your sun sign. (That’s the one most horoscopes list, based on your birthday. With more details, an astrologer can tell you your moon sign, your rising sign, and more—all part of your birth chart.)
“To dive deep into your sexual style, read for your Venus sign,” says Sandra Sitron, founder of Strong Eye Astrology. “Venus is the goddess of love and beauty—she shows how you receive love.” (If you don’t know which Venus sign you are, find out here.)
Sitron notes that your Venus sign will tell you a lot about your hook-up nature, so whether you’re a frisky fire sign or a more gentle air sign, the alignment of the stars on your birth chart can reveal your deepest desires.
Keep reading for Sitron’s take on each of the Venus signs, to help you get your (cosmic) freak on.
Aries is the first sign of the zodiac, so she’s a natural leader both inside and outside the bedroom. She’s risky, frisky, and sparky—and a major “take-charge” type (think whips and stilettos). Whatever she does, it’s going to be direct and unabashed. Aries loves new frontiers and making things fun.
Taurus rules the physical body, so she is very sensual—she wants to feel really good in her body. Her desire is to luxuriate in gentle touches, fine fabrics, delightful tastes, smells, and sounds (hygge, basically). She loves slow romance, but she’s also got major endurance. Taurus is willing to stay up all night if it feels good—so make sure you have matcha on hand for the next day.
Gemini is flirty, light, airy, and zippy. She’s one of those people who’s good at everything—and that applies in the bedroom, too. She loves word-play, role-play and spicing things up. Creative Gemini has a light touch and quick humor; her style is to whisper sweet nothings and always be ready with a surprise.
Cancer’s sex style is all-encompassing love. She’s ultra-nurturing, but also sensual and sultry. This lover wants to surrender and receive top-notch care. Cancer has so much to give, and is adept at helping her partner feel safe, cozy, and cherished.
Leo has a big heart. Her sex style is loving, full of fun, theatrical, and playful. When she’s feeling recognized for her beauty and brains, she’s a purring sex-kitten; in bed, she’s active and fiery. As long as she feels seen, she’s a generous and romantic partner.
Virgo is a delicate lover, and her sex style is service-oriented. She’s always trying to improve and refine her, ahem, techniques. On the surface she doesn’t like anything too bawdy or crass, but if she can break out of her perfectionism, she’s secretly thrilled to get down and dirty—especially if she can be a bit submissive.
Libra is a major flirt. She has a vast appreciation for good aesthetics, and nothing gets her in the mood faster than serious romance. She can be soft and fluffy, but her wit is razor sharp—meaning that her sex style is charm and elegance mixed with a healthy dose of seductress. Libra blossoms with a calm, steady, and balanced lover.
Scorpio oozes sexual mystery. Her sign rules union—and that happens on all levels: physical, emotional, spiritual, and mental. Because Scorpio is ready to go deep with a lover, she has to figure out how much control she wants to keep or let go of. This exploration makes sexual power a hot topic, and ultimately she’s a mystic lover who’s not afraid to look into the shadows to gain depths of knowledge.
Sagittarius’ sex style is over the top, and she wants feel good and frolic. Not one to be afraid of taking risks, charming Sagittarius is willing to discover new philosophies or spiritualities about love and sex, but she’ll also quickly bring the conceptual back down into the physical with a raucous roll in the hay.
Capricorn is a #girlboss in the bedroom—and she has the slinky lingerie to prove it. She’s willing to work for it, sexually, as long as she can prioritize her actual work life. (Seriously, she really does love her job.) She’s most comfortable when she’s experienced, and Capricorn can be plenty sensual when she wants to be—as long as her lover meets her high expectations.
Aquarius’ sex style is innovative and unique. She’s a bit of wild card, and she’s going to do exactly what she wants. She’s not afraid to shake up the status quo, whether that means gender roles, social norms, or simply some creative new moves. The dreamy sign is a visionary, and it shows in her sexual style: futuristic, tech-y, and gender-fluid.
Pisces is an enchantress, which means her sexual style is compassionate-meets-otherworldly. She’s a true lover; the gentle, understanding friend of the underdog who will see the authentic prince or princess in every frog. She wants to dissolve the boundaries between herself and her lover—and wants sex to be dreamy in every way.
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