Kelly Ripa has had a week.
After her Live! With Kelly and Michael co-host Michael Strahan announced that he would be leaving the show for a new position at Good Morning America—and reportedly didn’t give her a heads-up—Ripa took a few days off…and the media went wild. (We like to imagine she spent her days off shaking it in Anna Kaiser’s dance cardio classes.)
And just like that, she was back in everyone’s good graces. (There’s no doubt she’s America’s a.m. darling once again, The Observer assures.) Having been through our fair share of office meltdowns, friendship drama, and relationship squabbles, we wondered: How’d she manage to take a not-so-great situation and turn it into a win? Turns out, there was definitely a method to her madness.
Here are 5 lessons to be learned from Ripa’s actually-not-so-diva-like situation.
1. Fight the urge to lash out.
When your significant other is 15 minutes late to your matcha latte date, do you immediately want to go on a Twitter rant? Look at how Ripa handled this (probably infuriating) situation: She kept her cool in public and dealt with her emotions in private. Lesson learned?
2. Take a step back, away, or out of the picture for a bit.
You’re giving a presentation, and that one guy in the back of the room keeps interrupting, and interrupting…then straight-up mocking you. Do you put him on blast? Or maybe take a step back and give yourself some TLC, like Ripa. As soon as Ripa received news of her co-host’s departure (which reportedly had been in the works for months before Strahan presented it to her and the Live! team), she skipped town—literally. Armed with a copy of Malcolm Gladwell’s David and Goliath, she headed for the airport and jetted off for some R&R.
3. Process your emotions in private.
During Ripa’s time away from the Live! set, she gained some perspective, People reports. “I always speak from the heart, so I didn’t want to come out here and say something I regret,” she said. In other words: Your Facebook wall is not your personal therapist.
4. Return to the situation when you’re ready.
Ripa returned to Live! (and a standing ovation) a week later to deliver a genuine—and at times self-deprecating and funny—address to the show’s fans. In addition to congratulating Strahan on his new gig, she also said the experience opened up a conversation about respect, communication, and expectations in the workplace. (Relatable, anyone?)
5. Remember that it’s okay to show your emotions.
Ripa’s heartfelt speech upon her return to Live! (check it out, below) showed how strong emotions can convey, well, strength. “I want to honestly and sincerely thank you all for welcoming me back to the show,” she said. “The love and show of support to this bizarre time has been very overwhelming. I needed a couple of days to gather my thoughts. After 26 years with this company, I earned the right.”
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