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6 Kinky Masturbation Ideas To Explore During Solo Play, Directly From Sexperts

Mary Grace Garis

Mary Grace GarisJune 24, 2020

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One of the few not-awful effects of living in the time of the coronavirus pandemic is that masturbation has become new form of self care for a whole bunch of people. And while that’s great news, given that we’re now a number of months into quarantine, it stands to reason that many of these masturbating enthusiasts may be nearing the end of their personal honeymoon phase just as the Summer of Self-Love kicks off. So if you’ve been treating yourself oh-so-tenderly, but your orgasms have weakened as a result, consider shaking up your routine with kinky masturbation ideas.

First things first, a kink can be explained as sexual play that goes beyond the scope of the cultural norm, exploring novelty beyond what’s expected. But it’s not so far out there; sexologist Shamyra Howard, LCSW, contends there’s a good chance you’ve already had kinky sex at some point of another. “Many people think they need special props to be kinky, but that isn’t true,” says Howard. “You’re probably already having kinky sex, but not realizing it. Spanking, adding props, and exploring different sensations are common ways that people engage in kink.”

In essence, kink is just another way to add texture to the sexual experience, and if you’re sick of the current texture you’ve been relying on for self-pleasure, you may be interested to learn kinky masturbation ideas from sexperts.

Below, sexperts offer 6 kinky masturbation ideas to add novelty and texture to your self-pleasure routine.

1. Deny yourself an orgasm

“Orgasm control, also known as orgasm denial, is done by edging, or bringing yourself close to orgasm and then stopping,” says Howard. “To get kinky with orgasm control during solo sex, edge yourself three times with at least three-minute breaks in-between each time you masturbate. Then, allow yourself to experience the magic of orgasm.”

Edging with a vibrator, or otherwise, can help you reach new heights of pleasure because the buildup over time can make your orgasm strong.

2. Be sexual with yourself discreetly in public

Looks like drive-in movie theaters may have a big comeback this year, so consider that an opportunity to take your We-Vibe out on the town and explore your inner kink. “Find a remote-control vibrator that you can wear and activate with the click of your phone,” says Tatyannah King, sex educator and sex coach for Blex Technologies, a sexual-health resource catering to the Black community. “Just make sure to test it out at home first just in case it isn’t as quiet as expected.”

3. Experiment with sensation play

Sensation play is all about using different items to achieve various types of stimulation. Howard says plenty of household items can be used for this: clothespins, rubber bands, and tissues, to name a few. But one of the easiest (and free) ways to explore sensation play as a kinky masturbation idea is with temperature play, using ice.

“While masturbating with one hand, rub ice on different body parts. For added sensation, allow the ice to stay on one spot until it stings. See how long you can tolerate the stinging.” —sexologist Shamyra Howard, LCSW

“While masturbating with one hand, rub ice on different body parts,” says Howard. “For added sensation, allow the ice to stay on one spot until it stings. See how long you can tolerate the stinging.”

4. Then try sensory play

“Also called sensory deprivation, sensory play is when you remove one or more of the senses,” says Howard. “This results in other senses being heightened.”

The flip side of sensation play is sensory play, and it involves subtracting instead of adding something to heighten your pleasure. This can be tricky with self-pleasure rather than partnered play because it’s not so easy to, say, tie yourself up (unless you’re a skilled contortionist, in which case, mad respect). However, you can get a little creative with that sleeping mask on your nightstand.

“Use a blindfold or scarf over the eyes while masturbating, or during any of the above kinky activities for added eroticism and pleasure,” says Howard.

5. Allow another person control over your climax

“For mutual masturbation, give your partner control by asking permission to touch yourself in front of them, or asking permission to make yourself come,” King says.

Even though solo play is obviously about handling the job yourself, it doesn’t mean you can’t phone a friend (sometimes literally). This is essentially a way of making that edging fantasy come to life.

6. Know your own limits

Give yourself a sexual check-in if thing go into really unfamiliar territory while you’re exploring kinky masturbation ideas.

“Be sure to always pay attention to your body and to stop at any signs of unwanted discomfort,” Howard says. “And always offer yourself some TLC after kinky sex. Whether you need a hot cup of tea, cold water, or your weighted blanket, take care of yourself.”

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