Looking at Molly Sims now—with her Victoria’s Secret supermodel pedigree, five Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition covers, and husband and two kids—it’s hard to imagine she ever felt anything but gorgeous, confident, and loveable. But she insists that her career and relationship didn’t come easily—and there were times she wasn’t sure if she was going to accomplish what she wanted for her life at all.
In her new book, The Everyday Supermodel, which is part-memoir and part-healthy-living guide, 41-year-old Sims gets real about the work that went into creating her major career and awesome life, from her “awkward” adolescence and the six workouts a week she put in to have her cover-worthy body to the inner-life mindset that’s harder to quantify but essential.
It’s a guidebook for helping you reach your version of a supermodel life, every day, she says. “I truly believe that anyone can have the life that they desire. You just have to be willing to do the work.” And she’s not just talking what you do at the gym.
See her advice for going after what you want—and how to deal with the journey, which, even if you are a supermodel, doesn’t always feel easy or glamorous:
You’re very open about your “awkward” adolescence and how it wasn’t easy becoming a model. What was that period of time really like? People assume that because I was a model, I wake up gorgeous with perfect makeup every morning, or that Prince Charming and the Barbie dream house with 2.5 kids were all just waiting for me. That’s so not true. I grew up with a unibrow, acne, and headgear. But what I did have was a great mom and dad and tons of tenacity.
In your book, you said that when you were sad and feeling down in your career, or having your heart broken, you didn’t spend too much time wallowing. Why is that? Feeling sorry for yourself ultimately becomes destructive. There’s a saying, ‘You can’t soar with the eagles if you hang with turkeys.’ To me, that’s about more than just the company you keep; it’s about your frame of mind. You can’t change your situation if your heart and mind are stuck in the mud.
So how did you go after what you wanted—what gave you the confidence? You have to start at the root of things: Figure out what thoughts and behaviors are holding you back. Just changing the way you dress or wear your makeup might make you feel temporarily elevated, but changing what’s going on inside of you actually helps you move forward.
What are your tips for women who want to make a change in their lives? Focus on what can go right, not what can go wrong. How can you expect your life to change if you’re doing the same thing over and over? Remind yourself that in order to incite change you have to actually do something.
I love that advice. But how do you know when it’s the right time to make a move or change? There is never going to be the perfect, right time, unless you make it now. Life is too short to sit on the sidelines and just wish for the life of your dreams. —Molly Gallagher
For more information, check out The Everyday Supermodel
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