In order to make room for the new—habits, intentions, goals—this new year, first you need to let go of the old. In this regard, positive vibes guru and #1 New York Times bestselling author Gabby Bernstein has totally got your back. (And if you’re familiar with her work, you know the universe has got it, too.) Here, she lays out the first step in her plan for detoxifying your energy in 2018.
Happy (Re)New Year!
Whatever your goals for 2018, this month I will guide you toward the only resolution you truly need to make. When you commit to this practice, everything else will fall into place. Every area of your life, from relationships to work to loving yourself, will become infinitely easier.
This practice is to heal your judgment.
A couple of years ago it became so clear to me that judgment was dragging me down in many ways. My judgment of my friends, family, and business partners put a limit on our closeness. My judgment of myself made me feel guilty and “less than,” and kept me from embracing greatness. And my judgment of total strangers, from people on the street to celebrities on TV, darkened my whole view of the world.
I put together a six-step process to clear judgment so that I could release the beliefs that were holding me back from living a better life. This process became my new book, Judgment Detox.
For the next five weeks, I’m going to guide you through an adapted version of the process I outline in the book. Each week I’ll include an exercise you can focus on for the next seven days. (If you feel called to go deeper, grab your copy of the book!)
This week we’ll begin by witnessing our judgment without more judgment.
We all have wounds
This is a beautifully simple practice. What is asked is that you become more conscious of the ways you separate yourself from others and the world.
Our judgment of others has protected us from facing our wounds. To avoid feeling our wounds we’ve built up pretenses around ourselves. We mask our wounds underneath our clothes, in our relationships, and behind our social and economic status. We invest in the illusion that we are separate from others—better than some people, inferior to others.
This false perception cuts us off from peace, freedom, and real, authentic, fearless love. But when we heal our wounds, we no longer need to judge and to see ourselves as separate. We restore oneness.
Taking a full, honest inventory of the ways you judge and the wounds that live beneath your judgments is a process I guide you through in Judgment Detox, and it is profoundly liberating. But for right now, start slowly by consciously witnessing your judgment.
How to take stock of your judgment—without judgment
Pay attention to when you judge others or yourself. Begin noticing when those judgmental thoughts crop up in your mind and when you speak them out loud. And pay attention to how they make you feel. For example, maybe you notice yourself gossiping with coworkers in the morning and get a quick buzz off it, but 15 minutes later you feel low-energy and resentful as you try to get back into your work.
It’s helpful to carry a small notepad with you for this exercise, or you can use a note-taking app on your phone. You can bust it out whenever you become conscious of a judgmental thought, or you can set aside a few minutes throughout each day to reflect on your judgments over the past few hours.
When you begin to pay attention the ways you judge, you may be tempted to judge yourself. Let’s take that off the table now by accepting that we all judge all the time. Really! We live in a world filled with judgment and no one is a saint. Therefore, let’s accept that we’re all in it together.
This exercise will give you newfound clarity about how much you judge and what it really feels like. Becoming aware of your judgment and being gentle with yourself will help you to see that the practice of detoxing from judgment is miraculous and freeing.
Order Gabby Bernstein’s new book, Judgment Detox, to follow her six-step method for clearing judgment and releasing the beliefs that hold you back from living a better life. When you order the book you’ll get Gabby’s 2-hour manifesting workshop as a free gift. Gabby Bernstein is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Universe Has Your Back, and her other best-sellers include Miracles Now, May Cause Miracles, Add More ~ing to Your Life, and Spirit Junkie. She is the founder of the Spirit Junkie Masterclass training and the Miracle Membership. Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday named her a “next-generation thought leader,” and The New York Times called her “a new role model.” She appears regularly on The Dr. Oz Show and Today. Follow her on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter.
There’s some powerful New Year’s energy in the air, and we can’t wait to help you harness all of it. Now that you’re on track to clean up your mindset, learn how to detoxify your finances, diet, home, and more.