Every year, Google releases its top searches, and in 2017, the relationship-related questions ran the gamut from relatively easy-to-answer process queries to abstract soul-searching ones. Google essentially moonlighted as a couples’ therapist.
People were curious about LDRs, how to change a relationship status on Facebook (#millennialproblems), and how to get over a relationship (spoiler: Netflix helps!). Googlers were also really interested in healthy relationships: According to Business Insider, “What does a healthy relationship look like?” was one of the top 10 relationship-related questions—and the answer to that brain buster ain’t so simple.
Every relationship is different, but standout markers of healthiness in a love match tend to look similar across all demographics. According to the the official New York State website, some of the key characteristics are having respect for each other’s privacy and space, feeling comfortable expressing opinions and concerns, feeling physically safe, never being pressured (or pressuring your partner) to do something you don’t want to do, and being able to compromise and negotiate during conflicts.
Basically, the foundation of a healthy relationship comes down to boundaries, communication, trust, and consent—and if you and your partner have all of those things, there’s a good chance you also have the tools to build an even stronger union. But if you’re ever unsure about whether or not your love connection is toxic (another top Google search this year), try talking with a trusted source for some outside perspective.