Scorpio Traits as Told by a Taurus
Okay, okay, to make this a little less creepy, let me provide some context: I'm a Taurus, and Scorpio is my total opposite on the zodiac wheel—I've always been drawn to them. Since so many of my friends are Scorpios, my bank account cringes every year come late October since it's when I'm annually stockpiling birthday gifts for my most smoldering friends. My first love, in fact, was a total Scorpio. But he was also a grade-A A-hole who ditched me on prom night…but I won't derail this love letter about Scorpio personality traits to wax poetic about a romance I had when the hashtag symbol still meant "pound." That said, his less-than-stellar handling of prom (and our relationship) does reflect a certain Scorpio tendency to avail oneself of traditions, astrologer Emma Toynbee tells me. And, hey, I have to learn to take the good with the bad (regarding Scorpio traits, not my long-dumped high school boyfriend).
"Scorpios are prone to sudden stings, unexpected forceful change, and transformation, movement, and eruption," Toynbee says. As such, their identity is strong. Scorpios, mired in their dark power, leave a lasting impression. Some people don't match up with their sun sign, but let me tell you, people of this sign tend to skew in personality as definitively Scorpio.
So whether you're a Scorpio, your friend is a Scorpio, or you love a Scorpio (lord help you), Toynbee and Lumi Pelinku, an intuitive astrologer and transformation life coach, are here for you. Below, they explain all the powerful Scorpio personality traits you should know about—both those worth celebrating, and those you'd be wise to watch out for.
10 Most Potent Scorpio Personality Traits
Passionate, smart, and independent, the myriad of Scorpio traits make for one of the most multifaceted signs of the Zodiac. Here are the Scorpio characteristics that make them truly fascinating.
1. Scorpios are determined, sometimes problematically so
When a sharp-eyed Scorpio puts their mind to getting to the top or seeing out any goal at hand, they achieve it and excel. Career-wise, you may not be the official HBIC, but there's a good chance you have power within a creative division or hold a highly specialized title. You either dominate within your space, or you're looking to seize the whole office.
Just play fair, champ. According to Toynbee, Scorpios have a drive that might lead them to "crush any opposition and obstacles."
2. Scorpios are imaginative, intelligent, and have an independent mind
Scorpios are thought leaders who don't really give a damn if you follow them or not. Pablo Picasso was a Scorpio. You know Pablo Picasso, right? The guy who saw art of his era and was like, "Yeah, no…I'll do a different thing and then people will follow my lead." That's real big Scorpio energy at work.
Basically Scorpios aren't married to the modes of the past, and that allows them to come up with fresh ideas and innovations. It doesn't mean being at the helm of an artistic revolution for every person, but there's certainly a good chance it'll allow for some kind of personal autonomy over the understanding of what you earnestly like and prefer. Either way, though, I tend to believe whatever musings are going on in a Scorpio's brain.
3. Scorpios are assertive—or forceful, depending on how you take it
For better or worse, Scorpios don't really register words like "no," and "you can't." They can somehow get themselves and their friends into any event, no invitation required. And this makes being one of those friends great. Bouncer at the door? Not so much.
4. Scorpios are more than just a little bit controlling
Again, Scorpios know what they want and “will go to the depths of the underworld to see their vision come alive,” Pelinku says. Often though, life doesn’t go quite as planned, which brings Scorpio’s control issues to the forefront. Their emotions may get erratic, Pelinku adds, affecting those around them, too. Her advice: Gaining more control in your life, Scorpio, requires more letting go and surrendering.
5. Scorpios are emotional and have sharp intuitive powers
Because a Scorpio never lacks depth, they're seriously in touch with their own emotions and those of others. This intuitive feature can be unsettling for those who can't handle it (sometimes, in practice, it can feel like straight-up mind reading). For those who can hang with the psychic-level of empathy, what's likely to result is a strong, forever bond of friendship.
6. Scorpios are loyal for life (sometimes too much)
Speaking of forever bonds, Scorpioos are the most loyal beings, despite their controlling and domineering nature. “They will go to the edge of the world for those they value,” Pelinku says. In other words, you definitely want a Scoprio in your corner. That said, Pelinku notes that their extreme sense of loyalty often pushes their own feelings aside to keep others happy and the reciprocation of that loyalty may fall short, too, creating heartache and bitterness.
7. Scorpios are vindictive
Though Scorpios do indeed tend to possess the other mystical powers outlined above and they are as loyal as they come, their stinger is also front and center. People of this sign are known to have a dramatic flair for vengeance, so you'd be wise to try and not irritate them.
8. Scorpios can be really intense
Sure, this is a broad generalization, but the descriptor sums up Scorpio energy accurately and concisely nonetheless. Even if a Scorpio exits your life, you can rest-assured you'll have the parting gift of a lasting, unforgettable impression. And if the Scorpios you know and love do stick around, they can be an amazing addition to your astrological social circle—if you treat them nicely, that is. As Toynbee puts it, "home life with a Scorpio can be happy—if every other family member submits to their will." Duly noted.
9. Scorpios make decisions and don’t turn back
Scorpios intensity also spills into the way they make decisions in their lives, as in their decisions are always finite, there’s no turning back, Pelinku says. She adds that once they’ve weighed the pros and cons and decided what’s right in their hearts, there’s little room for negotiation.
10. Scorpios love exploring the dark side of things
If you need a buddy to binge watch true crime documentaries, Scorpio is definitely your person. “Scorpios long to investigate the undercurrents of humanity, mainly those who are often misunderstood such as criminals and outcasts,” Pelinku says. “They even mold into the darker shades of personality hence their well-known dark humor.” While this may come off as cold and cruel, in reality, Pelinki says, “Scorpios see and accept the multifaceted hues of humanity.”
Scorpio Traits With Love and Sex
Being in a romantic relationship with a Scorpio is, in a word, intense. Other words to describe it, according to Pelinku include all encompassing, cathartic, and overprotective. “As Scorpios start to fall in love, they feel intensely and will fixate all of their attention on their lover,” Pelinku says. With that in mind, Pelinki says Scorpio's perfect match must have a strong sense of self and personal boundaries “when treading the waters of the scorpio’s ecosystem.”
During sex is when you’ll often see a Scorpios’s true colors. “Their emotions run wild in the bedroom and this is where Scorpios truly feels most expressive,” Pelinku says. “They can go from sensual to passionate and primal. They like to dominate, but wish nothing more than to please their lovers.”
Scorpio Traits With Career and Money
Scorpio’s drive and determination will get them far in their careers. “They hold a strong enigma about them that may be intimidating at first, but in retrospect it is their desire to put all of their energy into perfecting their work,” Pelinku says. With money, Pelinku adds, Scorpios have a tendency to splurge as they love living that luxe life, and everything they buy must be top quality.
Scorpio Traits With Friendships
Controlling and vindictive nature aside, everyone deserves a Scorpio BFF. A Scorpio friend can be a friend for life as they are deeply devoted to those they care about. “They likely have a close-knit circle of friends in which they entrust their deepest secrets,” Pelinku says. “If a friend is ever in trouble, Scorpio will drop everything to ensure their near and dear are taken care of, and expect nothing in return. Only loyalty.”
Scorpio Likes and Dislikes
If you want to bond with a Scorpio, lean into their likes, one of them being their fascination with mystery and depths. “Whether it be in life’s mysteries and/or relationships there has to be room for them to probe,” Pelinku says. “Their life’s mission is to dig deeper in life and figure out a way to peel away the superfluous layers, and get to the core of purity.”
On the flip side, if you’re trying to get on a Scorpio’s bad side, there’s a few things they definitely won’t be into and that includes overly sharing. Remember, they love mystery. So if you spill everything, Pelinku says they’ll likely lose interest, fast. Similarly, they prefer to maintain their own sense of mystery, too. So a Scorpio is pursued or feels cornered, they will bolt. “The scorpion likes to lead with almost everything in life,” Pelinku says.
Scorpio’s Challenges and Growth Opportunities
Scorpio’s biggest fear: losing control. Pelinku says their obsessive need to maintain control over every aspect of their lives only sets them up for mental conflict and constant disappointment, which is why overcoming it is actually part of their life’s journey.
“As Pluto is their sign ruler, Scorpio’s life purpose is to understand the path of surrender in order to experience peace in their existence,” Pelinku says. “This planet teaches many to accept and embrace the concept of death, transformation, and rebirth. The ability to look deep within and experience liberation once they disconnect from the intensity, will bestow this level of grace and breakthroughs.”
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