If you have questions about sex, porn sites are seemingly the easiest place to find answers. The problem? The cinematic product you see on your computer screen doesn’t necessarily paint the most realistic picture of what you can expect IRL. It’s a big reason why PornHub launched its own Sexual Wellness Center in 2017: It’s a platform dedicated to giving people the information they actually need to know about getting it on… both with their partners and on their own.
“A lot of people around the world get their sex education from pornography because there are no other resources available,” says Laurie Betito, PhD, a licensed clinical psychologist and sex therapist who serves as Pornhub’s sexual wellness director. A 2019 survey out of the U.K., for example, found that 60 percent of students turn to porn for information about sex, but to unideal effect: More than three-fourths of these respondents admitted that it gave them “unrealistic expectations” for their own sex lives. In light of this common issue, Pornhub’s Sexual Wellness Center aims “to offer people good sexual-health information, because a lot of people have tons of questions about the most basic things, and we want to make sure all of that is addressed,” she says.
In her role as director, Dr. Betito is responsible for answering sexual-health questions that come across Pornhub’s platform with the goal to educate users in ways that go beyond the tips they’re picking up from videos on the platform. One of the main topics that finds its way into her inbox, particularly in the age of quarantine? Masturbation. (surprise, surprise).
“Your sex drive isn’t gone because you don’t have people around you, which means people are turning to self-pleasure,” Laurie Betito, PhD
“Your sex drive isn’t gone because you don’t have people around you, which means people are turning to self-pleasure,” says Dr. Betito, pointing to the recent rise in sex toy sales and porn consumption as proof.”
Getting it on solo (or at least, socially distanced) is decidedly the new norm for many during quarantine, and Dr. Betito has just the tools to help. Below, she shares her picks for the best vibrators for women and vulva-owners to maximize their pleasure.
Below, find the 3 best vibrators for women and all vulva-owners according to Pornhub’s sexual wellness director.
Rabbit-style vibrators, like this one, offer users a sort of “double the pleasure, double the fun,” situation thanks to their dual-stimulation abilities. “There are different versions of the rabbit, which offer internal stimulation through a piece that looks like a penis and has clitoral stimulator at the same time,” says Dr. Betito.
Shop now: Lovehoney Jessica Rabbit 10 Function Rabbit Vibrator, $40
2. Womanizer Classic, $129
Sometimes the best vibrators for women aren’t even vibrators at all. Enter: the suction sex toy. “A lot of women will orgasm through clitoral stimulation and don’t need a dildo because they don’t orgasm through penetration,” says Dr. Betito. “Clitoral stimulators, like the Womanizer, draws blood out from the clit, and a lot of women like that.”
This clitoral vibrator promises an orgasm in a matter of minutes, and as a loyal user, I can confirm that it absolutely lives up to the hype.
Shop now: Womanizer Classic, $129
3. Hitachi Magic Wand, $60
Let’s be real: We all know what this “back massager” is really meant for (spoiler: it’s orgasms). “This go-to was invented as a back massager, but it offers the most powerful vibrations that you can find,” says Dr. Betito. That said, it comes with one major caveat: Its vibrations are so strong, you’d be wise to put a barrier like a towel between the toy and your skin to avoid the risk of, well, burning or desensitizing your clit.
Shop now: Hitachi Magic Wand, $60
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4. DAME Pom, $95
If you want to focus on external stimulation with a gentle-but-mighty toy, try this editors’ favorite from Dame Products. The palm-sized Pom has a super squishy head and a “beak” for a sensational solo sex experience.
“This toy is a must-have and the first toy I’d recommend for beginners,” says Rebecca Alvarez Story, sexologist and founder of Bloomi. “It’s designed for the vulva and feels amazing on your clit. It’s also waterproof for fun times in the shower or bath.”
Shop Now: DAME Pom, $95
5. Le Wand Bullet, $85
Sexologist and founder of Le Wand Alicia Sinclair says this baby is “great for folks new to sex toys, or looking for a vibe they can hide in plain sight.” The Le Wand bullet delivers strong vibes at a whisper quiet volume, which makes it the perfect stealth quarantine companion for huge households.
Shop Now: Le Wand Bullet, $85
6. We-Vibe Nova 2, $149
“The We-Vibe Nova 2 is one of the best rabbit-style vibes we’ve seen,” says Searah Deysach, longtime sex educator and owner of pleasure shop Early to Bed. “The genius of this design is that the clit stimulator stays connected to the body even when thrusting.”
Shop Now: We-Vibe Nova 2, $149
“The full-coverage design hugs the entire vulva, the material is squishy but firm so it feels quite life-like, and the motor is body resonating, meaning you can feel it deeper into your skin,” says Jill McDevitt, PhD, resident sexologist for CalExotics. “Fantastic all around.”
Shop Now: CalExotics Tremble Kiss Dual Density Silicone Massager, $94
Originally published September 19, 2020. Updated November 24, 2020 with additional reporting from Mary Grace Garis.
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