The unfortunate truth that the orgasm gap presents is that for people with vulvas, climaxing is rarely as easy as the “oh, oh, oh!” portrayal it often gets in pop culture. In fact, a 2017 study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that only 65 percent of heterosexual women report always reaching orgasm after acts of sexual intimacy versus 95 percent of heterosexual men. Furthermore, reaching orgasm also often requires an investment of determination: Additional research notes that it can take between 11 and 21 minutes for people with vulvas to reach the level of arousal that precedes an orgasm, meaning there’s also an orgasm time gap. So while solving the orgasm gap is certainly not a simple, easy-to-fix conundrum, knowing how to orgasm faster? That answer may at least help chisel away at the issue of the orgasm time gap.
For vulva-owners wondering about the fastest way to climax, there’s a short answer (and an extremely long one), says human sexuality professor Zhana Vrangalova, PhD. “The easiest type of orgasm to reach for a vulva-owner is the external clitoral one,” she says. “This is because the external clitoris is the part of the body that contains the greatest density of nerve endings that, when stimulated, can lead to pleasure.”
You have a host of options for how to engage clitoral stimulation to reach an as-fast-as-possible orgasm: You can ask your partner to give the Kivin Method a go (some say it can bring a climax in three minutes flat), flip on your vibrator, or pull out a hand mirror for a little self-exploration. And if you do find that reaching orgasm still eats up those standard 11 to 21 minutes of your time, Rachel Allyn, PhD, a holistic psychologist and pleasure expert with Allbodies, says it may be time to make like a body-loving cartographer and map out more of your bits.
“Anatomical differences can explain why some women have an easier time experiencing different types of genital orgasms compared to women who are limited to having clitoral orgasms only.” —Rachel Allyn, PhD, pleasure expert
“Anatomical differences can explain why some women have an easier time experiencing different types of genital orgasms—such as vaginal, clitoral, and cervical—compared to women who are limited to having clitoral orgasms only,” says Dr. Allyn. Even the distance between the clitoris and the urinary opening can determine where you’ll feel the magic and where you just won’t feel, well, much. “The shorter the distance between the two, the more likely a [vulva-owner] is able to have vaginal types of orgasms—like G-spot and cervical—in addition to clitoral,” she adds.
So, since you’re a unique human being in all spheres of life, including your erogenous zones, you’ll have to work at understanding what, exactly, works for you. To help you along this journey of self-discovery, Dr. Allyn says there’s one universal and invaluable tool you can use to help: presence. “One of the greatest predictors of which type of orgasm is ‘easiest’ to achieve has to do with a vulva-owner’s ability to stay present in their body, and present in a way that gives them permission to receive pleasure,” she says. “This is likely to lead to experimenting with their body and the ways it responds to different types of stimulation, like types of stroking, pace, different sizes, more than one erogenous zone at a time being touched, and different positions impacting pleasure.”
So, even if the clitoris isn’t your personal fastest route to orgasm, you’ll find your hot spot—and hopefully within 11 to 21 minutes or sooner.
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