Before downloading anything, take a second to make sure your mind is in the right place. "The dating advice I give to anyone over 50 is the same advice that I give to someone in their 30s: It all starts with self-worth and shifting negative thought patterns from 'I don't deserve' to 'I do,'" says certified personal coach Keren Eldad, creator of a program called Dating With Enthusiasm.
- Keren Eldad, Keren Eldad is a certified coach with an approach centered around reframing your mindset to achieve development goals with a focus on self-awareness, vulnerability, empathy, and overcoming overwhelm.
- Valentina Dragomir, Valentina Dragomir is an integrative psychotherapist and the founder of PsihoSensus Therapy.
Best dating apps for people over 50 at a glance
- Best overall: OurTime
- Most user-friendly: SilverSingles
- Best for serious relationships: eharmony
- Best features: Match
- Best for women: Bumble
- Best for beginners: Coffee Meets Bagel
- Best affordable: OkCupid
- Best curated matches: Hinge
You may feel apprehensive about reentering the world of dating, particularly now that it's digital. That's completely normal, but take heart in the fact that you're not alone in your quest for companionship. A 2019 study found that the vast amount of heterosexual couples now meet their significant others online. Plus, nearly 55 percent of queer folks reported using an online dating app, according to Pew Research Center.
While app-based dating tends to be more friendly to younger age groups, there's a growing list of apps tailored for the needs of folks over 50, according to psychotherapist Valentina Dragomir, founder of PsihoSensus Therapy. "While the dating apps for younger people offer different features such as matching people based on interests or friends of friends, the dating apps for folks over 50 focus more on compatibility and serious relationships," she says.
With that in mind, you're ready to start your search. Here's the rundown of what to look for in a dating app.
What to look for in dating apps for seniors
If you're a checklist kind of person, this is it. Dragomir says you should make sure your dating app features many single people in your age group, is easy to use, aligns with your goals, and prioritizes your safety and privacy above all else. Let's talk a little more about each piece of criteria.
1. The app has lots of singles in your age group
"The last thing you want is to sign up for a dating app that doesn’t have a lot of active users. You’re more likely to find matches on an app with a large user base," says Dragomir. Many dating sites include info about how many active users they have to offer, but you may have to do a little digging.
For example, eharmony's biggest groups are reportedly between the ages of 30 to 44 and 55 to 64, so that's a huge win over an app where the majority of users are in their 20s.
2. The app is easy to use
Ease of use is obviously a plus, but it's worth repeating here. There's no point in making dating harder than it needs to be. So if one app seems fussy and the opposite of user-friendly, skip it. You'll find something else
3. The app aligns with your goals
"Make sure you choose an app that aligns with the type of relationship you’re looking for, as many dating apps for people over 50 are designed with specific types of relationships in mind," says Dragomir. For example, OurTime, SilverSingles, and eharmony all cater to people looking for long-term relationships.
4. The app is safe and secure
Dragomir also recommends being mindful of which sites are legitimate, and which sites may be phishing to steal your personal information. Make sure you're on a legitimate page (ask someone for help, if need be), and don't offer up information like your social security number or your bank account information. You can sign up for different online and in-person activities If your gut is telling you that something's off, opt for a different app instead.
The best dating apps for people over 50
Like many dating apps, OurTime allows you to like individual profiles, send messages to other single folks, but it also ha a special "Discovery" feature that allows you to find other singles. This app also only caters to folks over 50, so you won't have to worry about only finding a limited number of people in your age group. It is open to folks in heterosexual and queer relationships.
Price: Free to sign up, premium membership is $89.99 for six months
This exclusively over 50 community claims to add over 380,000 members each month, and takes a rigorous approach to finding and deleting fake profiles. It's also extremely user-friendly, and offers one-on-one profile consultations if you're not quite sure where to start.
However, you don't have to use SilverSingles to seek out a serious relationship; you can also use the app to make new friends, date casually, or look for a serious partner.
Price: Basic membership is free, premium membership is $81.99 for six months
Eharmony is more expensive than other dating sites, but it may be worth your while. The company claims that someone falls in love every 14 minutes using the app (which is available on mobile or desktop).
This classic dating app also offers video dates and an easy-to-use interface that won't waste your time. One down side? The site is open to everyone over the age of 18, so you will have to specify the age group you're hoping for.
Price: Basic membership is free, premium light membership is $179.99
You've likely heard of match.com, which has been helping people find love since 1995, and is available in 15 different languages and in 24 countries. It is open to a wide audience, but you can specify which age ranging you're looking for, and you can pay for additional features like boosting your profile, attending local events, and Super Likes to show you really like a profile.
Price: Free to sign up, six-month bundle is $129.99
On Bumble, women make the first move, giving them control of with who and when they want to start conversations. For heterosexual matches, once there's a match, the woman has 24 hours to make the first move; in same-gender or non-binary matches, either person can make the first move, but the other person has 24 hours to respond. Bumble is open to anyone over 18 and also offers exclusive IRL events. Bumble also offers Bumble BFF if you're just looking to make some new friends.
Price: Basic membership is free, premium plans costs $19.99+/month
Instead of endless scrolling and swiping, Coffee Meets Bagel recommends a handful of matches every day at noon. If you want to chat with one of your matches, you'll be prompted with some icebreakers to get the conversation flowing, and the chat expires in seven days so you can move to an in-person meet up if you want.
Price: Basic membership is free, premium subscription is $34.99/month
After filling out a short questionnaire on your interests and values, OKCupid uses its algorithm to match you with compatible people who share those interests and values. The dating app is inclusive, allowing for 22 gender and 13 orientation options, and you can filter your matches by age. Many of the features such as seeing mutual likes and messaging are free, so it's a good option for people who want to try a dating app without a huge financial investment.
Price: Basic membership is free, premium subscription starts at $7.99/month
Hinge markets itself as the app that's "designed to be deleted," and uses a Nobel-Prize-winning algorithm to help you find love. You answer a few prompts when setting up your profile, and you can even set "dealbreakers," and the app will filter out people who don't match your preferences, so you aren't wasting your time with incompatible matches. The app gives you eight free likes a day, based on research that offering more led to worse matches.
Price: Basic membership is free, subscription is $34.99/month
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