3 Tips for Building Emotional Intimacy With Your Partner—No Sex Required
So, no matter why it is that you're not hitting the sheets on the reg to do the dirty (hey, maybe it's just not the best time, hormonally speaking) know that you can still certainly work on the emotional intimacy component of your relationship. And also some physical stuff too that's a bit more PG.
3 tips for building some sexless emotional intimacy with your partner.
1. Cuddle without the expectation of it turning sexual
Ok, so physical touch is still an important part of building intimacy—but the interactions need not lead to doing it. Cuddling, in fact, can improve your relationship satisfaction. In a 2014 study, researchers found that 94 percent of couples that touched throughout the night while sleeping were happy in their relationships, whereas only 68 percent of those who didn’t touch reported the same. The way you cuddle can also affect how you feel about your relationship, although the overwhelming consensus is that any type of cuddling (hugging works!) can have a positive impact.
2. Hold hands while walking down the street
The seemingly insignificant act of lacing your fingers through your partner’s can, in fact, have a huge payoff. One study found that physical touch triggers the release of oxytocin, AKA the “love” hormone. And holding hands is a powerful way to help you feel closer to the person you’re clutching.
Walking down the street while holding hands may just make you feel as though you’re walking through life with this person. But hand-holding doesn’t have to be reserved for a stroll. Link digits when you’re sitting in the movies, when you’re driving in the car, or when you’re sitting across a dinner table from one another. Lace those fingers, and let the oxytocin flow.
3. Spend some time every week talking about your relationship
No surprises here, but a top ingredient for a healthy relationship is communication. And that doesn’t just mean idle chitchat. Taking the time to sit down and talk about how you're feeling in a relationship is a perfect way to build intimacy and ensure you’re both on the same page in general. But rather than constantly checking in, which can lead to feelings of inadequacy, consider setting up a little time every week to discuss where you’re at and how you're feeling. Hopefully the exercise will help you feel closer and crush problem areas before they get out of control.
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