Don't confuse the triangular love theory for network television's treasured love triangle. Dr. Sternberg's research—to which he has dedicated a life's worth of work—revolves around the interaction (or lack thereof) between the three components of any relationship: passion, intimacy, and commitment. When we meet someone, these three ingredients mix-and-match themselves in different ways and—in the most basic sense—define the relationship without your voluntary input, explains psycholoigist Ellen Hendriksen, PhD, on recent episode of her podcast, Savvy Psychologist.
"The three components of love generate eight possible kinds of love when considered in combination," reads Dr. Sternberg's website. You can see how all the different types pan out in theory below. However, it's important to remember that no coupling is just one thing. Nothing will describe what you have with the person (or multiple people) you're seeing with complete and total accuracy. Still, it's fun to piece together the kind of mashup currently occupying your romp with the dating pool. Go for it.
The 8 types of love you can build with the triangular love theory
When all three components are missing, sorry, there's no love.
There's intimacy, but no passion or commitment.
3. Infatuated love
There's passion, but no intimacy or commitment.
4. Empty love
There's commitment, but no intimacy or passion. Dr. Sternberg elaborates on his website that, "Empty love emanates from the decision that one loves another and is committed to that love in the absence of both the intimacy and passion components of love." (Cue: dramatic sigh.)
5. Romantic love
There's intimacy and passion, but no commitment.
6. Companionate love
There's intimacy and commitment, but no passion.
7. Fatuous love
There's passion and commitment, but no intimacy.
8. Consummate love
All three types of love are present.
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