There’s no reason that sex toys should stay hidden away in a drawer when you’re in a relationship, waiting to be used only when you’re single. In fact, there’s a whole world of the best sex toys for couples—made specifically with partnerships in mind. Whether you want to spice up your sex life with a little vibrating help or you want to explore life on the adventurously kinky side, there’s a wand, bullet, stroker, butt plug, suction, wearable out there for you.
Experts in This Article
sexologist and sex educator with Hily
licensed clinical social worker and AASECT-certified sex therapist
certified sex therapist with 3Fun
licensed clinical social worker and sexologist
in-house sex educator at adulttoymegastore.com
“Toys are such a fun way to enhance partnered play because they bring in extra power and pleasure to the experience,” says Gigi Engle, a certified sex and relationship psychotherapist and resident intimacy expert at 3Fun. Don’t think of these toys as a “replacement” for your partner(s), but a teammate, she adds. “Frankly, life is too short to have boring sex—so why not use all the fun things at your disposal to enhance intimacy?”
Sexologist Mindy DeSeta, PhD, a sexuality educator at Hily, agrees. In fact, using toys can also prompt deeper communication between the both of you, she says. “Shopping for a sex toy together or introducing a partner to your favorite vibe creates natural opportunities to discuss pleasure and desire,” DeSeta says. “These intimate conversations strengthen both emotional and physical connections, ultimately enhancing the overall experience of pleasure.”
Bringing up sex toys in your relationship can feel daunting, but it doesn’t have to be. It’s just another opportunity for connection and fun! Keep reading to shop sex experts’ recommendations for the best couples sex toys and why (or why not) they’d be a good fit for you—no matter your gender, sexuality, or relationship structure.
The best sex toys for couples, at a glance
- Best app-controlled G-spot vibrator: LELO Gigi 3, $130
- Best wearable couples vibrator: Dame Eva, $145
- Best clitoral stimulation toy: Womanizer Enhance, $159
- Best remote-controlled couples toy: We-Vibe Chorus, $209
- Best app-controlled stroker: LELO F2S, $199
- Best finger vibrator: Dame Fin, $49
- Best app-controlled wand: We-Vibe Wand 2, $169
- Best vibrating cock ring: Satisfyer Power Ring, $32
- Best silent couples toy: We-Vibe Sync 2, $159
- Best app-controlled wearable vibrator: Love Distance Reach, $50
- Best bullet vibrator for couples: We-Vibe Tango X, $79
- Best remote-controlled butt plug: Booty Sparks Laser Heart Vibrating Plug, $46
- Best strap-on dildo: Happy Rabbit Vibrating Strapless Strap-On, $115
- Best travel vibrator for couples: Rocks Off Rainbow 7 Bullet Vibrator, $20
- Best rechargeable stroker: Fun Factory Manta, $80
How to choose the best couples sex toy
Shopping for a couples sex toy might seem intimidating at first. Not only are there so many options, but you can’t just take your own personal taste into account—you have to consider your partner’s, too.
Emily Lambert Robins, LCSW, a licensed clinical social worker and AASECT-certified sex therapist, recommends a whole lot of communication before your shopping trip. "When shopping for a couple's sex toy, it's important to approach the process with communication and an understanding of both partners’ comfort levels,” she says. “Prioritizing open dialogue and consent is just as important as selecting a high-quality product.” Below are some other things to keep in mind:
Material
This first rule is self-explanatory. These toys are going to be inside, outside, and all over your body—so, of course, it’s important for them to be made of body-safe materials. Lambert Robins considers that a non-negotiable. She recommends going for toys made from materials that reduce irritation or infection—like medical-grade silicone, ABS plastic, or stainless steel, which are non-porous, hypoallergenic, and free from phthalates. “If a toy is designed for internal use, confirm that it’s waterproof and easy to clean, as hygiene is an important part of sexual wellness,” she says.
Stimulation
The second thing to consider is the kind of stimulation you both enjoy, keeping in mind the genitalia you and your partner have that you would like to focus on. There’s a different toy for each type of person and each type of couple, so don’t give up if you can’t find something that works for you right away.
“Some toys are designed for external clitoral stimulation during penetration [e.g., vibrating C-rings or wearable vibes], while others allow for mutual penetration or shared sensation. Choose something that enhances your connection, and does not replace it,” says Shamyra Howard, an AASECT-certified sex therapist and sexologist at We-Vibe. “If you're new to toys, start with something simple and not intimidating. If one partner is hesitant, choosing a toy together can help reduce shame or anxiety.”
Type of Toy
Finally, think about the purpose of this toy—and the kind of features that would work best for your needs. Are you looking for a toy that slightly enhances your sexual experience? Or are you looking for a toy that will introduce some daring adventures between you? Or maybe a toy that works while you’re long distance?
A remote or app can be one convenient feature. “This is non-essential, but if it’s a wearable vibe that sits between your bodies, it can be a lot easier to turn it on and off and change the settings with a remote rather than needing to fidget with the toy while it’s already between you,” says Emma Hewitt, a certified sex educator with Adulttoymegastore and the host of the Electric Rodeo podcast. “Some will even have an app so you can control your toy using your smartphone.”
Shop the 15 best sex toys for couples
LELO’s Gigi 3 is a favorite for a reason, with its app-connectivity, eight vibrating pleasure settings, and soft silicone feel. Plus, connecting it to the app doesn’t just allow for your partner to make all the pleasure-making choices, but also unlocks two exclusive vibrating modes: Finish Me Off and Out Of Control.
“This G-spot wand is my favorite to enhance oral sex. It works really well to use [internally] on a partner while focusing on the external clitoris with your mouth,” says Engle. “This is a simple toy to use and you can even connect it to the LELO app to use it hands-free, which makes it great for couples.”
Pros:
- App-controlled
- Quiet, but strong vibrations
- Made from super-soft silicone
Cons:
- Controlling it via the app may take some getting used to
Dame, known for its toys that are aesthetically and sexually pleasing, brought to the market the first ever wearable couples sex toy with Eva in 2014 with a crowdsourced campaign. And ever since, it has remained as a recommendation from both sex experts, couples, and solo players.
“Recommended for its thoughtful design, the Eva is a small, hands-free clitoral vibrator that nestles between the labia and stays in place during intercourse. It’s great for couples because it doesn’t require one partner to hold or adjust anything,” says Lambert Robins. “Its simplicity makes it approachable for people new to using toys together.”
Pros:
- Made from medical-grade silicone
- Rechargeable
- Comfortable to wear and won’t slip out
Cons:
- Only offers three intensity levels
The Enhance is perfect for those who like a little (or a lot of) suction in their partner play—and who doesn’t? It combines Womanizer's original Pleasure Air technology, which uses pulsating and massaging changes in air pressure without touching the clitoris, with We-Vibe's rumbly vibrations for a total orgasmic experience.
“Not only are these amazing on the clitoris, but they also work well for those who enjoy nipple stimulation. If a couple desires to orgasm in a play session, a clitoral suction toy is a great option for the partner with a clitoris,” Howard says. Plus, it features ten separate vibration levels, vibration patterns, and intensive levels. In other words, you’re getting a whole lot of bang for your buck.
Pros:
- Variety of modes for both suction and vibration levels
- Made from soft silicone
- Rechargable
Cons:
- Maneuvering the buttons can get tricky
If you’d rather not have any phones near you during sex, then the We-Vibe Chorus is for you. While it’s app-controlled, the wearable vibe also comes with a ‘squeeze’ remote—called that because the tighter you squeeze it, the stronger the vibrations get.
“This wearable vibrator is a favorite among sex therapists for a reason. It’s designed to be worn during penetrative sex, stimulating both the clitoris and G-spot while leaving room for a partner,” says Lambert Robins. “What makes it stand out for couples is its remote control and app connectivity, partners can control it together in the moment or even from a distance. It’s ideal for couples looking to spice things up while staying physically close.”
Pros:
- App-controlled and remote-controlled
- Rechargeable
- Switch between vibrating moves with movement alone
Cons:
- May be uncomfortable to wear
At first glance, the LELO F2S may look like a simple stroker or a motorized penis vibrator. But connect it to the LELO app and it becomes an endurance and stamina trainer with exclusive exercise routines designed to make pleasuring your partner (and yourself) the ultimate goal.
“This personal massager just launched recently, and it just is so much more advanced than other masturbation sleeves on the market,” says Engle. “It works great for those times when you want to engage intimately, but maybe don't have the stamina for a full-on hand job. It can also be a very fun addition for couples to use during mutual masturbation.”
Pros:
- Made from liquid silicone
- Features eight vibrating modes, plus six extra with the app
- Rechargeable
Cons:
- On the pricier side
For a more personal touch, Dame’s Fin is the tiny-but-mighty toy for you. Fitting in the palm of your hand or between your fingers, this vibe is an intuitive and affordable option for those looking to stimulate their partner’s clitoris—whether you want to spice things up or you just need a little extra help. It’s the perfect intro toy if you’re only beginning to add vibes to the bedroom.
“This toy is attached to your hand, essentially turning [your finger] into a vibrator,” says Engle. “It's one of my all-time favorites for couples because you don't have to worry about dropping it and [it] can easily stimulate the external clitoris during penetrative sex.”
Pros:
- Affordable
- Made from super-soft medical grade silicone
- Features five intensity levels
Cons:
- Noise level may be a little high
The We-Vibe Wand 2 is an app-controlled wand that features a flexible head and ergonomic handle for an easy-to-use and comfortable pleasure experience—no matter how far apart you are from your partner.
“Wands are also great for clitoral stimulation during solo play or partnered play, and they can also be used on other body parts such as the breasts, nipples, chest, buttocks, backs, knees, and anywhere else you desire,” says Howard. “Wands are commonly stronger than bullet vibrators, so if a partner knows they desire a more intense vibration, this is the toy for them.”
Pros:
- App-controlled
- Features 10+ intensity levels
- Comes with a “Smart Silent” mode, which only vibrates when in contact
Cons:
- The weight and length can be too intense for some users
Because a penis-having partner deserves a little vibrating treat, too! The Satisfyer Power Ring Cock Ring really does know how to satisfy with its soft but sturdy silicone build and ten vibrating modes.
“A vibrating cock ring has the added benefit of vibration, which can be felt by the wearer and their partner. This provides some much-needed clitoral stimulation without having to use their hands,” Hewitt says. If you’re in a relationship where one person has a penis and the other has a clit, a cock ring can provide sensations to both parties—plus, with so many vibrators focused on clitoral stimulation, this ring is a good beginner toy for a penis-having partner without committing to a more expensive stroker.
Pros:
- Made from soft silicone
- Features ten vibrating modes
- Rechargeable
Cons:
- Might be too tight or small for some
No, you’re not seeing double—the We-Vibe Sync 2 is the Chorus’ older sibling, with a similar build for $50 less and a few different features. The Sync 2 is slightly less intense with a more rigid hinge, so it’s not as adjustable as the Chorus. Still, they’re both waterproof, while being app- and remote-controlled at a distance.
“A wearable couple's toy is also a great option for those who want to experience hands-free stimulation during penetrative sex. These types of toys sit on the clitoris as well as inside the vagina for G-spot stimulation,” Howard says. And not only does it feel good for the wearer, but the penetrating partner can also feel the vibrating sensations, she adds.
Pros:
- Features ten intensity levels
- Nearly completely silent
- Made from soft silicone
Cons:
- Connection isn’t always reliable, per some users
For those of you anxious about wearable vibes falling out or not fitting comfortably, the Love Distance Reach and its included adjustable harness is the perfect toy for you. It’s sure to deliver on every sex fantasy, whether you’re playing with your partner or completely solo, with 20 different vibration settings and 12 adjustable speeds—all controlled from an app or remote, no matter the distance.
Plus, its unique butterfly shape makes sure to hit all your erogenous zones, including your clitoris—this is a full body experience. “Imagine sitting across the dinner table while your partner controls your panty vibe from [their] phone,” says DeSeta, adding that this vibe is “mentally and physically tantalizing.”
Pros:
- App- and remote-controlled
- Features 20 vibrating modes and 12 speeds
- Includes an adjustable harness
Cons:
- Long charging time
If you’re looking for something simple that still delivers, then let me introduce you to the We-Vibe Tango X. This bullet vibrator features seven vibrating modes with eight different intensity levels, while being waterproof and quiet. Plus, it comes with a “travel lock” mode which ensures it doesn’t accidentally turn on at the wrong time.
“Bullet vibrators are always an excellent choice for couples because they are small, mighty, and less intimidating than some other toys,” says Howard. “They are best used on the vulva and clitoris to stimulate different erogenous zones, such as the nipples.” Because they’re so petite, they’re also easy to use on the clitoris during penetrative sex, she adds.
Pros:
- Features seven vibrating modes and eight intensity levels
- Rechargeable
- Comes with a “travel lock” feature
Cons:
- It may be too small (and not strong enough) for some
For those with a love in their heart for anal play, this Laser Heart Butt Plug by Booty Sparks is the perfect addition to your sex arsenal. Not only is it soft and smooth, it also vibrates and shoots laser hearts to the wall or bed frame, adding to the vibe (pun intended) while you play.
Plus, “it comes with a remote control, so you can share control of the vibrations,” says Hewitt. And the heart flickers in time with the vibrations—cute, huh?
Pros:
- Remote-controlled
- Features four speeds and seven vibrating modes
- Projects heart-shaped lasers to set the mood
Cons:
- Lasers may be too distracting for some
Differing from the wands, suction toys, and bullets from this list, this toy by Happy Rabbit isn’t your ordinary rabbit vibrator: It’s a strap-on dildo. For those interested in a more intimate penetrative experience, the Vibrating Strapless Strap-On Dildo features a shorter bulbous end that’s easy to grip and a longer end that measures 4.5” by 1.43” diameter with three vibrating speeds—plus, the famous well-placed bunny ears that teases the perfect spot.
You can also use this toy as a “regular” vibrator on your partner’s other erogenous zones, or hold it with your hands and penetrate your partner, suggests DeSeta.
Pros:
- Strapless strap-on, powered by two motors
- Features three speeds and nine modes in the shaft, and three speeds in the wearable piece
- Waterproof
Cons:
- Some might find it too big
For those looking for a true mini toy that’s perfect for on-the-go fun, the Rocks Off Rainbow 7 Function Bullet Vibrator is the one for you. Featuring three speeds, four vibration patterns, a long-lasting material, and a completely waterproof design, this mini wand packs a huge punch.
“I’m a big fan of this mini wand as it can be used in so many ways and is ideal for solo and partnered play, no matter your anatomy or gender,” says Hewitt. Like other external vibrators, it can be used against the clit, nipples, scrotum, or perineum, she adds. “And because it’s mini, it’s great for all sorts of positions and forms of play, as it won’t feel too intrusive.”
Pros:
- Features three speeds and four vibrating modes
- Waterproof
- Handbag-sized for easy travel
Cons:
- Not made from the softest material (although it is still body-safe!)
The Manta by Fun Factory isn’t just a toy meant for a penis-having partner (although it can be)—it’s a stroker meant to be a shared sensation between a couple, or as a pleasure-filled addition to oral.
Wings and ridges in this toy’s base will both hold lube in place and ensure the vibrations are going exactly where you want them (aka, not your hand). “Manta is a vibrating stroker that works well during hand jobs, oral sex, or intercourse,” explains Lambert Robins. “Therapists like recommending this one because it gives partners a chance to be playful and creative together. It’s also great for couples looking to shift focus from goal-oriented sex to shared sensation.”
Pros:
- Features six vibrating modes with six different speeds
- Comes with a “travel lock” mode
- Waterproof
Cons:
- Unreliable rechargeability and battery life
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